Sunday, February 21, 2021

Our Self-Esteem

At one point in time in our lives, we will deal with our self-esteem. A catastrophic life event will happen, and it will set us back.  We must learn to pick ourselves up, dust our knees off and take baby steps.  Do not worry about what other people think.  Worry about yourself.

Maybe our self-esteem was hurt by our dad, mom, brother, sister, or friend, and it probably still resonates in our head. But wait, what do you think about yourself?  Remember, self-esteem is not what other people think of us.  Self-esteem encompasses what we think of ourselves. 

Here is something I had to work through.  I always had high self-esteem until my husband died.  Then it fizzled away.  After putting much focus on my husband because he was ill, I forgot about myself.  I do not regret it, but somewhere down the line, I lost myself.  I had to reconstruct my self-esteem a little at a time.  I was learning to love myself again.  Going for walks, reading, and writing affirmations on stickies.  I wrote one affirmation a day. I then put them on my mirror, kitchen cupboards, refrigerator, and in my apron pockets.  Seeing these daily affirmations assisted me in my self-esteem and thinking positive. I found a jelly jar and started to
fill it daily with positive affirmations.  At the end of the year, I pulled each one out and read them.  Though I cried as I read them, I realized I had become a stronger person and really did not care what other people thought of me.  I am changing the world by being myself.

Here are a few affirmations I use: 

            I am beautifully made

            I am proud of me

            My well being is my top priority

            I add something special to this world

            With each breath, I become calmer, stronger, and confident

Try writing a few of these affirmations and sticking them around your house.  Every day as you pass a sticky with an affirmation, stop, and read it out loud to yourself.  This will make a difference in how you perceive yourself and the day. 

It would be wonderful to let me know how you are doing.  Please leave a comment below.  Poppy thanks you for coming to visit her on this beautiful day.

Let me leave you with this affirmation - I focus on what I can control, and I let go of what I cannot.

 

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Saturday, February 13, 2021

Love is in the Air

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Love is in the air...Your heart flutters: you smile a lot and think about your loved one all the time, when you are with them you have lots of eye contact, and you genuinely want them to be happy. 

I think love should be something that comes easily, and we should show it all the time. A small daily gesture goes a long way. Maybe a touch on the shoulder or a kiss on the forehead. Growing to love the real person and accepting who they are, with both strengths and weaknesses, can make a wonderful difference in your relationship. It helps it to become a lasting source of comfort, emotional safety, and joy. I don’t think we should wait for Valentine’s Day to show our appreciation.  Sure, a box of candy and flowers are great but let them know you are there for them physically, mentally, and spiritually daily.

Let me share one of my silly dilemmas while being in love. I become forgetful.  I sometimes forget I washed my hair, so I will rewash it. However, the funny and entertaining moments you share will make you crave each other’s presence even more. Did you know people who are in love report they spend, on average, more than 85% of their waking hours musing over their love? Wow! Love is often associated with warm and fuzzy feelings; it can also be a huge source of stress. Being in love often causes the brain to release the stress hormone cortisol. So, if you notice you are freaking out, you may be just in love. 

For the ones who have lost their loved ones.

Valentine’s day will be difficult. Though they may be gone, we keep their memories near and dear to our
hearts. Maybe do something to honor them. Have a piece of cake or a piece of candy they enjoyed. Go to a place where you both loved and sit and think of all the wonderful memories you made with your loved one. Give them thanks.

Let me leave you with this poem.


"The rose is red, the violet's blue,
The honey's sweet, and so are you.
Thou art my love and I am thine;
I drew thee to my Valentine:
The lot was cast and then I drew,
And Fortune said it shou'd be you."



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Monday, February 8, 2021

Infuse your Life with Action

Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth. 









Sunday, February 7, 2021

Mastering your Mind

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I have been busy working in the garden, the front yard, and around the property trying to keep up with the weeds. A couple of months ago, when the leaves started to fall, I used them as mulch in my garden. The leaf mulch kept my soil temperature warmer in the winter and protected my plants.  It also suppressed the weeds, reducing the number of weeds in the garden and improving the soil fertility as it decomposed. I am a Happy Gardener.

Here is something I want to share with my friends, family, and visitors. 

Controlling your thoughts and mastering your mind.

Our mind is a powerful tool.  When you control your thoughts, it influences the way you live your life. I heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. Crazy huh.

Let us think of many squatters living in our minds, and they create unhealthy and unproductive thoughts.  What we need to do is be in charge and evict them.  I believe being able to control your mind is a cornerstone of overall health and wellbeing. When your brain is healthy, your body follows, you will reduce your stress levels, energy and improve your focus. Creating a healthy mind is a daily discipline like creating a healthy body. Think of your words as being your daily nutrition. 

The inner critic compares themselves to other people, listens to other people’s words and their expectations. 

The pessimist is always worried about the what-ifs.  Always motivated by fear.

The reactor is triggered by anger, frustration, or pain.  Unhealed wounds from the past.  Any experience that is even closely related to the past will set him or her off.  It can even be a sound or smell.

The sleep depriver is the inner planner, the rehasher the contemplator. 


Why not begin each day by paying attention to your thoughts.  Every day is a new opportunity.  If you are thinking bad thoughts stop and counter the bad with good thoughts. Your mind can be your best friend or your enemy. Sit quietly and allow peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy in. The new version of you will be so much better than the old version of you.  Why not be your own best friend.

Let me leave you with this quote – At the end of the day, I’m at peace because my intentions are good, and my heart is pure.

 

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